All too often we compare ourselves to other mothers, tallying up all the things she has or does that we don’t. She has a nice car, more expensive jeans, her hair is always perfect, she has a part-time job and runs in marathons and secretly I hate her. Why? Do I really think she has it all together? Maybe her own mother is sick with cancer, but she keeps up appearances for her children. Maybe her closet is full of all the latest designer fashions, but her credit card debt is through the roof. Maybe she is just as insecure as the rest of us, but puts on a good act to hide her imperfections. Maybe she is a little bit jealous of us, those of us who show up at school pickup without makeup, hair in a messy bun, just happy to see our kids. Maybe she wishes she could let go a little bit, not always be ON, just be herself, her real self, behind the perfect makeup and manicures.
Who knows? Some days I want to be that mom who has it all together; hair done, makeup fresh, matching socks, crisp outfit, good mood, smile on my face, swooping my kids up and we are all perfect, perfect, perfect. But in reality, those days are few and far between. The stress to be the perfect mom is not worth the aggravation most of the time. It feels good to portray an image of togetherness, but it doesn’t feel real or authentic at all. My reality is messy and disorderly, chaotic and jumbled. I’d rather spend time cuddling my baby than putting on makeup and trying on outfits. I’m not a complete mess, I leave the house looking decent, but you know what I mean. We all have those days when even putting on mascara is just. too. much.
So today embrace your true self. Don’t compare yourself to any one else. It’s hard to do, but try just for today to not care about fancy, blow-out, marathon running mom and focus on the fabulousness that is you. The mascara can wait until tomorrow.